Emotional intelligence is a gift. It is our personal ability to control our own emotions while recognizing others’.
We have seen its power and magnificence. We have learned and embraced strengths and faults within ourselves and others. We have uplifted new friends and admired old ones.
We’ve enriched relationships and strengthened bonds.
We have sat idly by while feelings were hurt and opportunities were lost. We have ignored the feelings of others and focused on our own.
The sole reason within all the aforementioned interactions is and always will be our emotional intelligence.
Within our emotional intelligence there are four subsections:
- Comprehension – or the realization of your feelings; this involves both verbal and nonverbal associations, body language and facial expressions.
- Reasoning – allowing ourselves to create a mindful reaction to these feelings. Often our emotions can interfere with successful communication, whereas those with strong emotional intelligence embrace new ideas and confrontations as opportunities to learn about themselves and others.
- Consideration – looking beyond the reactions that are in the forefront and realizing that the issues themselves are often not the topic of the conversation. One’s anger might be a reflection of inner turmoil that has not been dealt with. You may need to listen more in this step (both to your inner voice and those around you) to get to the root of the feeling(s).
- Managing – or reacting in a way that is eloquent and respectful. Every time you open your mouth imagine that someone is hearing you speak for the first time. That you are making your first impression every day with everyone you meet. With this in mind you will undoubtedly be keen to the opportunity of creating exuberance and sharing your gift with others.
Those with high levels of emotional intelligence showcase traits such as self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and increased social skills.
Ultimately, if we can begin to understand that we are alike both in our good and baddest of traits, we can begin to incorporate compassion into all of our daily interactions.
This will help us in the workplace where success is measured by our ability to interact successfully, but most importantly within our loving relationships with friends and family.
Because there is really nothing worse than feeling alone and inversely, there’s nothing worse than making someone feel isolated.
Understand that everyone has the same component parts – we all breathe, laugh, cry, and yearn for understanding and we all deserve compassion.
Observe others and look within yourself.
Power lies in our ability to engage appropriately. Only then will we reach our full potential.
Use your emotional intelligence today, please share your experiences below.